The Story of Nurul,Aishah,Cha2,AkaZukii

why can't life be much easier than this? no complications, no agonies, no worries...just pleasant....everyday, but we would not call that life now would we?

Thursday, August 23, 2007

where have all the good men gone?


i cant be stressing more the importance of having a suitable life not to say i'm desperate, but at the age of 25 the peer pressure is already on me..LOL! it's month of august now,month
of rejab, one month away from ramadhan...and also in august, it's school holidays, with that weddings aplenty!! for last weekend only, i got 4 friends choosing to end their bachelor and bachelorette years..that's 4, more than usuals hahah. and out of that 4, 3, aged 25 or younger!!! i cant help but to wonder (and envy them as well) how do they do it?? it seems to be soo they manage to find for starters that other half, that person to marry with, and how do they know that person is the right one? to take that big leap in adulthood..takes courage and determination..i envy them seriously i do...haha, perhaps it the nature of their work, makes them more relax about making the next big thing, or could be because they can't wait to have whatever is "haram" in a relationship "halal" if you know what i mean LOL! owh, well, for those 4 friends of mine, CONGRATS on your wedding, i wish you the best in life, insyaAllah, you'll become a good husband/wife/father/mother in the future and may the marriage last forever..amin! uh, and sorry i couldn't make it at all to any of the weddings, was working! TV life, where they make wonders (and sometimes controversy) it's all about maintaining the success of the capitalist company's success LOL!

where have all the good men gone??? all the good guys are either married, gay or taken...hence, i'm left single and misreable without options LOL!

p/s: perkahwinan grand suhaila dan partner
nye...teman high skool sri aman...hiks, zannen deshita..

and this one, persandingan Khairul Azlyn aka Alin dan partnernya..member time diploma masscomm dan sume geng kamceng time dip...rogi tak pergi sedih tul...

Wednesday, August 08, 2007

Out of sight, out of Mind

True what they say, when something you can no longer see, are easily forgotten and be purged out from your mind..slowly but surely.

Anata , Sayonara... It's done. It's official. It's gone. Out of sight out of mind. Prolly, it's for the best.

Harap tiada benci, though staying friends is very unlikely.

Monday, August 06, 2007

Life PArtner

Good read -food for thought worth considering........

When it comes to making the decision about choosing a life partner, no one wants to make a mistake. Yet, with a divorce rate of close to 50%, it appears that many are making serious mistakes in their approach to finding Mr./Ms. Right. If you ask most couples who are engaged why they're getting married, they'll say "We're in love". I believe is the #1 mistake
people make when they date. Choosing a life partner should never be based on love (alone). Though this may not sound politically correct, there's a profound truth here.

Love (alone) is not the basis for getting married. Rather, love is the result of a good marriage. When the other ingredients are right, then love will come.

You can't build a lifetime relationship on love alone. You need a lot MORE. Here are 5 questiones you must ask yourself if you're serious about finding AND keeping a life partner.

Why is this so important? If you're married for 20 or 30 years, that's a long time to live with someone. What do you plan to do with each other all that time? Travel? eat? sex? or jog together? You need to share something deeper and more meaningful. You need a common life purpose. Two things can happen in a marriage.

1. You can grow together, or
2. You can grow apart.

50% of the people out there are growing apart. To make a marriage work, you need to know what you want out of life - bottom line - and marry someone who wants the same thing. If the so & so you're in love with; doesn't want the same thing you do; you might as well opt. out of it now than when its too late.

This question goes to the core of the quality of your relationship. Feeling safe means you can communicate openly with this person. The basis of having good communication is trust, i.e. trust that I won't get "punished" or hurt for expressing my honest thoughts and feelings. A colleague of mine defines an abusive person as someone with whom you feel afraid to express your thoughts and feelings. Be honest with yourself on this one. Make sure you feel emotianally safe with the person you plan to marry.

A mensch is someone is a refined and sensitive person. How can you test? here are some suggestions: Do they work on personal growth on a regular basis? Are they serious about improving themselves? A teacher of mine defines a good person as "someone who is always striving to be good and do the right thing". So ask about your significant other : What do they do with their time? Is this person materialistic? Usually a materialistic person is not someone whose top priority is character refinement.

There are essentially two types of people in this world : People who are dedicated to personal growth and people who are dedicated to seeking comfort. Someone whose goal life is to be comfortable will put personal comfort ahead of doing the right thing. You need to know that before walking down the aisle.

The one most important thing that makes any relationship work is the ability to give. By giving, we mean the ability to give another person pleasure. Is this someone who enjoys giving pleasure to others or are they wrapped up in themselves and self-absorbed?

To measure this, think about the following:

1. How do they treat people whom they do not have to be nice to, such as waiters, busboy, taxi driver or etc?
2. How do they treat parents and siblings?
3. Do they have gratitude and appreciation?
4. Do they show respect?
If they don't have gratitude for the people who have given them everything, you cannot expect that they'll have gratitude for you - who can't do nearly as much for them!
5. Do they gossip and speak badly about others?
Someone who gossip cannot be someone who loves others. You can be sure that someone who treats others poorly, will eventually treat you poorly as well.

Too many people make the mistake of marrying someone with the intention of trying to "improve" them after they're married. As a colleague of mine puts it, "You can probably expect someone to change after marriage and for the worse!". If you cannot fully accept this person the way they are now, then you are no ready to marry them. There is no point in putting restrictions on your life partner. if you love him/her you will accept him/her as they are.

In conclusion, selecting your partner doesn't have to be difficult and treacherous. The key is to try leading a little more with your head and less with your heart. It pays to be as objective as possible when you are selecting, to be sure to ask questions that will help you get to the key issues. Falling in love is a great feeling, but when you wake up with a ring on your finger, you don't want to find yourself in trouble because you didn't do your homework.

p/s: Taken from Dr Nehar
[falah's friend- Falah, syukran akhi, i know i can always turn to you for some pointers in life, :-) ]

Sunday, August 05, 2007

Bad Apples or Good Apples

Women are like apples on trees. The best ones are at the top of the tree. The men don't want to reach for the good ones because they are afraid of falling and getting hurt. Instead, they just get the rotten apples from the grounds that aren't as good, but easy. So the apples at the top think something is wrong with them, when in reality, THEY'RE amazing. They just have to wait for the right man to come along, the one who's brave enough to climb all the way to the top of the tree.